April 16, 2008 6:15 pm
400 Calories
Posted by Will under biking, food, happiness, people, slice of life
At the northwest corner of Crescent Heights and Wilshire this morning sat a weathered man holding a weathered piece of written-upon cardboard in one hand and a plastic cup in the other. I don’t remember what the sign said verbatim, but it included the words “Please Help” and gave information that the man was hungry and had no place to go and that he was a veteran of the Korean War.
Had the light been green to cross Wilshire and continue southward I would’ve just kept on going, but it was red and so I pulled beyond him and stopped and even though he was out of my sight he stayed in my mind — especially the word “hungry” — and so I pulled up onto the sidewalk and retrieved the container of yogurt and the banana and the Luna bar out of my backpack. It was to have been my 400-calorie breakfast consumed later at my desk, but suddenly I didn’t need it because he needed it more.
As I drew beside him, he jumped a little at the sound of my voice when I said “It ain’t much sir, but you’re welcome to it,” and then he gratefully accepted the items and said “God bless you” and I said “And you” and he caught sight of my bike with a sidelong glance and added “Be careful out there!” and I said “Thank you, take care” and I got on my way.


April 16th, 2008 at 9:14 pm
Will,
I’m glad you did that. It’s a touching story.
I used to be really irritated with panhandlers because I always felt like they were most likely to ask kids without much money. Being one of those I felt guilty if I didn’t help, and anxiety if I did give. I didn’t like feeling either way, so I blamed them for asking.
My dad came to visit me, and as we were walking along Wilshire near 7th in Santa Monica we were approached by a homeless man asking for money. My dad reached into his wallet, skipped the ones, and gave him a five.
We walked on, and I explained how I felt. He said that he figured, with the places he’d been in his life, “there but for the grace of god go I”. I’m an atheist, and I think that he is also, but I immediately felt ashamed because I understood his meaning.
My dad always blows past subtlety toward “piling it on”-ville, and this was no exception. He then offered to reimburse me for any money or service that I provided needy homeless.
So, now every time I walked past someone asking for assistance I had the guilt trip and an out - he would reimburse me. So I started giving money, or food. I didn’t skip the singles, but if I didn’t have any sinlges and I had a five, it was going in their hands. It became a habit.
There was a ripple effect and I increasingly had difficulty passing anyone or anything in need. That phrase “there but for the grace of God go I” always came back to haunt me when I tried to ignore need.
Coming home from a soccer match at the Coliseum I passed an injured kitten in the center of the lane mewing. I rode past, and continued about a quarter mile, thought “FUCK . . . why now?”, and turned back around. That kitten was dragging herself by her front legs toward the curb, and mewing constantly. So, I wrapped her in a towel, arranged her in my messenger bag, and rode 15 miles to the nearest emergency vet my mom could track down on Google. Her back was broken, and she was euthanized, but I hope I spared her a few hours of pain. Probably not, probably I should have taken care of it on the spot when I saw her condition . . .
My dad never paid up, at least not specifically (but he’s helped me many times with $.) He and I both knew he was manipulating me, but it didn’t really matter. I’m glad he realized that this would be an effective way to engage my empathy.
April 17th, 2008 at 5:31 am
You know Mr Campbell, you have a good soul.
We could use a few more like you out there.
April 17th, 2008 at 10:54 am
Thanks Fraz!
And Alex,
Your comment above is positively riveting and astounding. I appreciate you taking the time to share your experiences and your history.
I’ve been very wary of panhandlers since I got suckered into giving a woman $20 about 25 years ago outside a market in Studio City with some sob story about sick children and being out of gas and needing to get to El Segundo in a hurry. Couple weeks later, I was at the same market at a much different time of day and what a coincidence: the same woman with the same fucking story. I tore her a new one and haven’t given money to a person on the street since.
Injured, lost animals though? I’m the same way, I may wonder why me and why now but will drop everything to come to their aid if our paths cross.
April 17th, 2008 at 12:56 pm
Alex and Will, thank you both for sharing your stories of generosity and compassion. I’m not a daily bike commuter but I am on the red line daily and have had similar encounters. Yeah, I’ve been tricked out of a twenty a time or two but more so than not I think I’ve been able to help in some small way. “there but for the grace of God go I” is a great quote and brings to my attention how richly blessed I am. Thanks again.
April 17th, 2008 at 3:18 pm
Will, thanks for this story. I was so concerned it was going to end with an “is that all you’ve got?” and was happy that, instead, you were given a “God Bless”
Alex, you let the kitten go out of this world being cared about and undoubtedly saved it a good deal of suffering. Not many people realize the importance of acts of kindness like that one. Most people would have kept on going. Your Dad started a good thing.
April 18th, 2008 at 2:40 am
In knowing Will, I can bet not only was the food handed to the gentleman, Will probably made the ultimate act of kindness and touched the man-his hand or arm ever so unapparent that the man may not even have realized it…and sometimes that means more than money or food.
As the director of a non-profit, I have received more letters and comments that touching (a hug or touch on the arm or shoulder) means more to a person suffering frm whatever “ails” them. (In my case it is people in treatment for cancer that have pretty much lost everything they have)
Great job,Will…keep paying it forward!
April 18th, 2008 at 8:07 pm
It may be a cliche, but doing something nice for somebody else just because you can is always something that pays back multiple times. You know you have done right, the other person feels like there is still niceness in the world and you feel the warmth of having made somebody happier. Good for you and for everybody. Well done.
April 19th, 2008 at 2:41 pm
Will,
There used to be this woman on the promenade who has an arsenal of different stories, all well developed. She could have been a writer.
May 17th, 2008 at 6:22 pm
Will:
Well done, and a class act all the way.
Many of the “homeless” in my area (Portland) seem to be professional, well-fed beggars, so it is easy to fall into ignoring them all. Not every town has sufficient support for the truly homeless.
We should all look for opportunities to help like you did.
May 17th, 2008 at 9:23 pm
Thanks Mark!